Not going to “normal school”

Im so tired of all the “knowitalls” and having to defend our daughter not going to school. Its like they think we are keeping her home willy nilly for FUN just because we feel like it.

“She wont thank you for it”, “She needs to be with her friends or she will be socially awkward”, “its not good for them to be home”. The worst ones are the swedes (no offence meant, remember, I am a Swede), because homeschooling is not legal in Sweden they all seem to think of it as something worse then witchcraft and I am obviously damaging my child by not letting her go to school. What the doctors say doesn’t matter. Clearly.

Strange how as an adult its ok to not work and to be long term ill or signed off as disabled, but a child must go to school or you are ruining them for life. I have two words for them all. FUCK OFF. You know nothing. You don’t know us, you don’t know the struggles we face or have faced, you don’t know that your child’s sniffle could mean a lengthy hospital stay for us. You don’t know the amount of thinking, anguish and tears that have gone in to this decision, a decision which was finally taken away from us when the doctors put their foot down and said NO MORE!

We, as a family are having to come to terms with our daughter, our child, possibly never being able to attend what you call “normal” schooling. Nothing you say is news to us. We have taken it all in to consideration. We know how damaging it may be, we know. We have also done our research and we also know that most homeschooled kids are well adjusted awesome human beings. A high school teacher friend of mine said she has never met a previously homeschooled kid who was socially awkward or not up to speed academically.

We are not hippies who don’t believe in education. We are not weirdos who think the system is faulty. We are not deeply religious people who pray all day (maybe we should – perhaps it would help!). We don’t feel the need to carry a sign signed by our doctors (our team of doctors I may add) saying “She is to ILL for school”. We don’t owe you or the world anything. The minute you say you homeschool every Tom, Dick and Harry (and their cousins uncles neighbour) has to have an opinion? I mean seriously? GO AWAY!

Our 6 year old is a well adjusted, friendly, polite, non awkward life and soul of any party. We do not need your advice. Thank you.

Phew. Needed that vent.

And I said the F word. Bite me.

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Keep your germs to yourself!!

Its not easy to blog when your stress levels are through the roof. I don’t really feel so stressed but the fact that I cant focus on anything and feel like I have ants in my pants tells the real story. 6 days until Krakow hospital and tests there, then the lung hospital in Rabka. Its like – yet again – our lives are on hold while we wait for this. Celiac kid wears a mask out now and we take a thousand and one steps to ensure she remains un exposed to crap.

Have you ever noticed that people in supermarkets tend to cough straight out in to the air without covering as if they were home alone? In malls its the same thing! Or even worse, they cough over their shoulder and the cough germs lands on the poor unsuspecting person behind them!

The other day in the pharmacy the lady at the till was so obviously ill (coughing, sneezing, and generally spreading germs) that I actually walked out. I mean YUK! And, COMON!!!

I have now become like this grumpy old woman, because while I cant run up to these people and punch them in the head I can show my annoyance with loud comments of YUK and “eeew, Celiac kid did you see that disgusting lady coughing without covering?”

Shameful? Not for me, I assure you, but hopefully for the germ spreaders. You notice a lot when you live like this that you may not otherwise see. Like the lady in TK Maxx two days ago picking up the tea packets and smelling them, but I mean really smelling them, her nose was touching each packet and stayed on the pack while she obviously enjoyed the smell, pack after pack until her nose germs was on like every single one! I was trying to stare as evilly as I could as if my staring would shame her to stop. I mean, is it really normal to do stuff like that? Or am I uber sensitive to peoples germs all of a sudden? Im sorry, but I wouldn’t want to buy that tea ever in a million years after seeing her do that. What is wrong with people?

Even with a mask on and me providing hand wipes and alco gel constantly, it just seems that most people are so disgusting when they are out shopping that going out is just super dangerous. We can avoid parties and crowds fine, but we have to buy food!

Next time you go out to shop, cough in your bloody elbow please and don’t TOUCH stuff with your nose!

eeeew.

-Linda

The masks are from Etsy and can be found here 🙂