I think if you didn’t, you might be one of the lucky ones. Don’t we all have them… the people who don’t take Celiac seriously, who get slightly embarrassed when we start questioning a waiter or a manager, the not so discreet eye rolling when we start wiping crumbs from a table in Starbucks or tell our Celiac kid not to touch anything. Then they blame us, because WE changed. Well of course we bloody changed! We had to! And Celiac is hard enough without us needing people in our lives making it harder! It doesnt bother me to wipe tables in cafes, so why should it bother anyone else?
Haven’t we all heard it all?
‘A little bit of Gluten wont hurt’
‘You need to expose her so she can get used to it and grow stronger’
‘I know a family where a kid was allergic to bla bla bla and they started….’ (SHUT UUUUUUUP!!!!)
‘Oh comon, of course there wont be gluten in -insert ice-cream, dried fruits, chewing gum, crisps etc here – ‘
Why is it that people who hardly know what gluten is all of a sudden consider themselves total experts?
But then there is the good side, the best bit about Celiac! The instant friendships with other families like yours, the Celiac buddies. The ones you can call from the supermarket aisle and they do as much researching as you and can tell you in 2 seconds which salad dressings are safe. The people you can 100% relax with. Wipe tables, hands, ask the strangest questions around, and then offer them your baby wipes so they can do the same.
The truth is, for us, we gained far more friends then we lost. Sure, we lost some, but again, we don’t need people in our lives who try to ridicule or belittle our situation. So if you lost friends over Celiac, then get out there, go to your local Celiac meet up and meet others like you. For me, this is the very reason I started Gluten Free UAE, I wanted my child to not feel so different. And by having a huge network of Celiacs around us, being gluten free is as normal to my kids as it is to wear glasses. Some people eat gluten, some don’t. But I will NOT have people in our lives eye rolling near my daughter when we are doing things we have to do to keep her safe. I don’t make a big deal about Celiac, neither should they.
-Linda
